Personal / Relationship Bio
I am definitely living proof of the adage “we all wind up teaching the thing we need to learn the most”. There are two ways to become an expert in something. One way is just to be born with an innate gift for that thing. Another way is to make a lot of mistakes in that area of life, but keep learning from each mistake. The latter example is definitely my case when it comes to relationships.
I was raised by two people who never showed any love for each other and were both quite abusive toward me. This is not an uncommon scenario in this world. I only bring it up for this reason. I did not learn any real interpersonal skills from either parent. In fact, the only things I learned were negative things that I had to “unlearn” later on. My process of unlearning those things consisted of several years of deep meditation in my early 20s and a continuing spiritual/meditation practice. After emerging from these years of deep solitude, where I processed the crushing pain on childhood, a deep gratitude and forgiveness for the beings who raised me replaced the anger and resentment.
Yet the undeveloped parts of my worldly experience had not been attended to. There were still many unintegrated feelings and a deep level of confusion about how to interact harmoniously with other people. In this sense, I may as well have been raised by wolves — as both of my parents were negligent at best, destructive at worst. The process of closing the gap between spiritual wisdom and worldly life that expresses it has been a constant, continuing process. The main crucible of this evolution has been relationships. They are the realm of Venus archetypically / astrologically.
Venus has what we all want, happiness. Her energy is the one that eventually teaches us to enjoy life’s pleasures without wasting all of our energy pursuing those desires or disrespecting others as fill them. Venus is the energy that allows us to compromise, but it may be a shallow compromise to simply get what we want in the moment. A powerful Venus will enjoy life, yet not be addicted to worldly pleasure. It is the pleasure principle that pulls us into relationships and captures our imagination. Later in the process, Venus reveals our capacity to love and honor another’s wishes as equal to our own. Once we learn that we can love one person then we learn that we can love everything. Love is eternal and so are we. But our worldly, romantic, passion filled idea of love must be transformed. Venus transforms it.
It may surprise you that I have written a relationship book and study course, yet I have never been married. In truth, I have never wanted to be married. It is simply not that important to me. Having children also has not been important to me. I don’t rule out either of those things happening in my life at some point, but they have not happened yet and I am at peace with that.
I have had many relationships and enjoyed them all. Yet, what I bring to the table as it relates to relationship wisdom is more that of a scientist. As an astrologer I have looked at thousands and thousands of examples of people and their relationship energies. My perspective is more of a universal one, not a personal one. The interaction of masculine and feminine elements, masculine and feminine planets, the deeper principles of the planets as a informal life and by extension, relationships I have seen over and over again — and thousands and thousands of times.
The type of precision and accuracy that develops after such an intense and focused look at something is hard to put into words. Yet you are welcomed to see for yourself. Get these free videos and my e-mail course and learn more about yourself in relationships through the paradigm of Eastern thinking.
Best Wishes,
Sam Geppi
